2006 Life lesson - Part 3

Learning to accept.

These days I try not to accept things as they are. Especially when there arises a need to look deeper into stuff, below surface level. Especially human interactions, responses, beliefs and habits of life. Of course here, life sometime offers a helping hand.

Life for example has a way of giving back what you gave in the first place... in due time. Our world works on a delay system. It may take days, weeks, months, years or even a lifetime. Things find a balance somehow. Of course it doesnt necessarily work based degree to degree givebacks or rewards or vengeance or whatever but you are given a chance to see what you did right or wrong and how it affected others. And the best way to learn from that is to experience it yourself. And i think it is a compassionate system.

But where do we go from there? Once we have realised, do we change ourselves accordingly or do old habits die hard or in some cases totally impossible?

Family situations, society and our own tendencies and life experiences mould us into a personality. Some of us do well, some of us ...well..not too well. And sometimes we grow up to realise that we have been doing things wrong because we didn't know any better. What we thought was right all this while, suddenly turn out to be totally wrong. How do readjust? Life time self programmings can be hardly removed overnight. And there is the easy way out of just ignoring it and carrying on with it.

I guess it all depends how much we actually care about it. Do we care enough to change or we dont give a damn? The first option is going to be a uphill task but a courageous one. The second option...well...but there are a few who take it up and end up causing more misery for themselves and people around them. We can't shun it and we can't live with it. That is the life lesson... learning to go with it and not let things affect you. Learning to separate your self worth from such experiences. Its hard but its worth a try. Who knows, time may just bring about more balance.