A friend was ranting and raving this morning because her son's teacher called fr school to tell that he hid his book and lied about not doing his homework. She exclaimed.."that's it, he is walking back from school next one week!" And it happended to be a very hot season. This son is quite a hard working, sensitive kid who had never done this before and i did feel sorry for him.
More so.. coz. i can sense where all this will lead too. i also hv parents of my students tell me to cane their weak in studies children as much as possible so they will turn into 'A' students. I hv given up telling otherwise.
Such conditional love often leads to many emotional problems in puberty. And sadly many kids who are driven hard by their parents's approval end up with some sort of fear or emotional based problems...at times very destructive.
It is a pity that not much importance is given on understanding emotional development in children so we can better understand our role in all this.
There are quite a few interesting articles on emotional anxiety.
Emotional Memories Function In Self-Reinforcing Loop
How Brain Gives Special Resonance To Emotional Memories
Emotional Memories Can Be Suppressed With Practice
What Memories Are Made Of: Researcher Studies Plasticity Of Recall
Anticipation Plays A Powerful Role In Human Memory, Brain Study Finds
