i knew my son was coming even before i hit puberty. but my daughter, now that one was a trickster, i didnt even know till i was three months carrying. no sign, no hint, no warning.. 

but both of them gave me wonderful dreams. of vivid worlds, futuristic space homes, a green peaceful earth and highly evolved human beings..

both pregnancies were best times of my life, as it should be. I spend a lot of time reading books on various subject, watching fun educational tv programs, and happy movies. I found that i tended to avoid violent stuff and horror stuff. Even the musics i wanted to listen were happy. 

id like to say my children 'communicated' with me even before i reached 3rd trimester. with my daughter i found myself gravitating towards gentler activities like dancing, decorating and cooking mostly, my son was more to watching the whole 3 series of mentalist, investigative, going for long walks and a fetish for travelling and funfairs and competing. 

daughter was overdue nearly a month, son was premature nearly a month. girl took the slow all 6 hours of natural way out, 2.9kg the boy kicked out his water containment and came out screaming through caesarian section all 4.5kg. both came out with full hair and eyes open wide. 

that was just half the journey. basically i did what i felt right. didnt go into all that ritual baby baths where the babies obviously are traumatised into screaming red bundles of distress all to get them to sleep well.

6 steps to managing annoying (read stupid) relatives this Thanksgiving 2016

1) First of all when you see stupid, you have to let stupid be. Let them be stupid. That is ok.

2) If you try to reason with them, they will make you feel stupid eventually.

3) Don't underestimate the power of stupid though, they can suck you in. Stay adrift. Stay away.

4) Don't fight them, don't argue with them. Let them think they are right, they need that. Give them enough rope and they will hang themselves with it sooner or later.

5) Always remember stupid relatives will be stupid with everyone else too and the rest of the world, not just you, so never take it personally.

6) In the order of the universe, everything has a role to play, we know that. Stupid is there so that you and I can feel a little bit better of ourselves.

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